anxiety therapy | excessive worry, dread, fears, and panic
For anxious minds that think ten steps ahead
You’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
does this sound familiar?
Morning, day, or night—your body is here, but your mind is anticipating what’s to come. You find yourself caught up in what-if’s and worst-case-scenarios, or swept away by sudden, uncomfortable sensations. This may show up as:
A flutter in your heart, or 50-lb weight on your chest
Planning to plan, and then planning some more
Deep research, or constant reassurance-seeking
Avoiding places or things that scare you, or forcing your way through them with tensed shoulders
All of this worrying and bracing zaps your energy and doesn’t leave much room for pleasure. Your life has become smaller than you desire. Or, it’s objectively good and you just can’t relax into it. This is an exhausting way to live.
Feeling it?
Exhaustion from always being “on”
Tired of waiting for the other shoe to drop
Wishing you didn’t need to control all of it
Hoping to live more in the moment
I’m so here for it.
You’re allowed to live right now, even if anxiety tries to tell you otherwise.
You don’t have to keep donating time and energy to anticipating and preventing every bad thing that could possibly happen. You can experience the good stuff in your life, like laughing with friends, little wins at work, and even trying that thing you’ve been kind of interested in, but nervous about. You can learn to trust yourself even when you don’t know the outcome.
but how?
Quit fighting anxiety, and focus on what really matters to you.
Anxiety isn’t subtle, at all. It’s always waving its arms and shouting about awful things that could happen, and it’s excellent at getting your full attention. You’ve probably learned that you shouldn’t believe everything it says, and its predictions are often exaggerated or incorrect. But try as you may, you can’t make anxiety go away. That’s the problem. You actually can’t make it go away. Not by spending hours imagining the many ways your finances could implode. Not by arguing with it and reassuring yourself you definitely didn’t botch that video call with your client…right? Right…I think.
Instead of wasting your energy fighting anxiety, you can start taking steps forward with it there. Like noticing your heart racing, and still going to the work happy hour despite anxiety warning you “it’ll probably be awkward.” If this sounds scary, I know. I love to nestle up in my comfort zone. But there’s things I want that I can’t get from my comfort zone. And I bet that’s true for you too. I can’t promise you’ll always be comfortable in this process, but I’ll guide you gently and consistently toward something more important: the kind of person you want to be, and the kind of life you want to live.
it’s not in your head:
Anxiety is asking too much, and it makes sense that you’re exhausted. I want to help you find ease.
the skills you build
More than “coping.”
01 defusion
Anxiety therapy helps you notice future-focused thoughts and worries, and name them as such, so you can decide if they deserve further “problem-solving.”
02 acceptance
The felt experience of anxiety is unpleasant, but it’s a normal part of life. Being willing to feel it makes space for you to have other meaningful experiences.
03 valued living
You can live a good life with anxiety. It helps to know what’s more important to you than being 100% sure and prepared. Therapy for anxiety can clarify this.
drop your shoulders. feel it?
A less tense life is right here, and you can claim it.
still curious?
FAQs
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It can absolutely happen, and I know it can feel discouraging. The good news is, your brain is working as it should. Have you ever gotten an email from your boss that said, “Stop by my office this afternoon.”? Maybe you worried all morning or you left work early to avoid the conversation. Later, you found out your boss wanted to ask who’s covering while you’re on leave. You worried or avoided something that was never a threat. Your brain draws the wrong conclusion, and next time you face an unknown it suggests the same “helpful” strategies. Over time, you have less tolerance for the unknown. Anxiety grows, and life shrinks. Your brain thinks this is the only way. But you can still teach it otherwise.
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I wish! It really depends on how you define anxiety. If you’re thinking about the tight/tense sensations that crop up when you’re under stress, or the future-focused doom thoughts that seep in when life is uncertain, we can’t just exile all that. It’s automatic. However, the moment you become aware of what’s happening, you can stop being a willing participant. The paradox of anxiety is, the more willing you are to feel anxious feelings and notice anxious thoughts without rushing to push them away, the less likely they are to rule your life. And as a result, you may notice your anxiety about certain things decreases over time. But even if it doesn’t, you will build tolerance for the feeling so you’ll have freedom to do the things you really want even when anxiety is present.
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I work with all kinds of anxiety, including social anxiety, panic attacks, agoraphobia, and illness anxiety. The thing my clients have in common is they’re ambitious, high achievers who feel held back by their anxiety. They’re usually doing fine objectively, but one or more areas of life feels off to them. Like they just can’t stop thinking about work even after they close the laptop for the day. Maybe they wish for deeper friendships, but have a hard time opening up for fear of saying the wrong thing. Or they really want to travel more, but the thought of booking a flight makes their hands sweat. If you don’t see your anxiety listed, but it feels like this page is describing you, that’s enough. Reach out and we’ll figure out the rest together.